25 August 2008

Living the good life

First off, a quick update on what I did this weekend...: absolutely nothing.

Right, now that's out the way, let me ask you this (especially to all the Bad Mommies out there)...is there ever a time you'll really know that you're ready to be a parent?

Hubby and I will be celebrating our 3rd anniversary on 24 September, and we've recently decided that we want to get pregnant. I'm 25 and he's 28, so it's a good age. We're fairly stable financially (who is ever really stable??) and a lot of our peers are getting pregnant or having babies.

I have also become unbearably broody.

I turn to mush whenever I see a baby, and especially when I see Hubby with one. I can't help daydreaming about our own kids.

So now I've gone off the pill (for the hormones, you know) and I'm doing the whole healthy eating thing, but we're waiting until November at least, as I have hypertension, and it will be listed as a pre-existing condition on my medical aid until then. After that, it's no holds barred....

....or is it? Being who I am (I have to read up on everything!!) I've gone onto every single pregnancy website that I could find, to see what they have to say about falling pregnant.....and now I'm not so sure anymore.

Am I really ready? Should I wait a little longer? Should we be earning more money first? Do I want that responsibility? Will my medical aid cover everything? What the hell is a doula? Can I handle the shift in my social life?

So I'm stuck now....I really want to read up on everything possible, but I also don't want to scare myself out of this completely. How does one really know that the time is right?

9 comments:

Tamara said...

I used to think that you had to sort out all your major issues before having a kid. Now I understand that that will never happen, and I reckon that the most important criterion is to really want a child. Love covers a multitude of sins (and parental flaws).

Not that I'm at all qualified to talk about children. I have yet to develop maternal instinct ;-)

So... are you coming on Sun?

Arkwife said...

My major issue was my decided lack of maternal instinct...and that's kicked in in a big way!!

I'm only a year older than you...and I'm taking bets that you won't have to wait very long :-) Hehehehe....

I will definitely be there on Sun...I'm just not sure where there is yet. But Ruby knows...I think?

Glugster said...

When the kid moves out of the house.

Ruby said...

my friendster...unlike you i had a very busy weekend:) he he....
Anyhoodle, you know how excited I am about the whole baby thing...for you that is...no maternal instincts here yet, thank goodness.....but you know, if you're gonna try and wait until you're ready, you'll never have children. Nothing will ever be perfect in our eyes...just remember that God's timing is perfect;)

sweets said...

don't overthink this issue... personally i'm glad i had my kids in my twenties, it's a huge change, make no mistake, but honestly the best thing that has ever happened to me :)

so start humping!
:)~

Ruby said...

what? no new post yet? and you were bored.....so what were you doing?

Arkwife said...

Glug: you're an eternal optimist :-)

Ruby: luckily I have you to remind me of that often.

Sweets: whenever I get all flustered like this, I'm gonna call on you. Thanks for the advice doll.

And back to Ruby: yeah yeah, just because I'm bored with my work, doesn't mean I don't do it. I'll post today, mkay?

Ruby said...

i'll keep on reminding you friendster...promise:)

angel said...

honestly, u dunno if ANYONE is ever "ready".
i wish i had advice for you- but i'm clueless too.


oh, and a doula is a specially trained female birth-partner, who helps you and your other half through the labour and birth. i have a blog friend- doula mel- (in my sidebar) who is a doula and can explain it properly if you want to ever ask her.